No one said life would be easy, and it is something that I have really present right now. We all have experienced difficult situations and it is fine because they make us stronger and more intelligent to face life. I couldn’t live in a world with everything quiet, relaxed and scheduled, difficult situations are also a way to bring fun and adventure to life, but we all know that these circumstances are really hard and require a lot of effort from us to overcome them and get ahead in life.
Probably the
most difficult situation I’ve been through, I am experiencing it right now.
Everything started like four months ago when I decided that I wanted to study
communication but there was a problem, in my city (Los Mochis) there are no good
universities, so I decided to start looking for good universities in other
cities. After a deep research I found the ideal university for me, once again
there was another problem, this university was 1,425.9 km from my city. That is
15 hours and 40 minutes by car or 2 hours and 20 minutes by plane! It probably
could sound not terrible but considering that Los Mochis is not a big city,
there are not flights every day or every hour, so it would be difficult to travel often to my hometown to visit my
family.
I realized
that I had to study and as my parents always say me, we have to make sacrifices
for a reward, so I decided that I was going to study at Anahuac University in
Mexico city.
Then, two
months ago I had to move from my hometown to Mexico City, at the beginning I
was very excited; new house, new city, new friends and new school, everything was
perfect, even the weather was better than in Los Mochis, but then the real
problem appeared. As time was passing I realized that I didn’t have my family
or friends with me, I wasn’t in my home, I had nobody to clean everything I
mess, there was no delicious food, I didn’t have my big bed with me and my TV, I
didn’t have my loved pet or no one to talk after I arrived from school, I had
nothing to do in my weekends and that’s something I haven’t experienced for a
long time.
I started to
felt very sad, I didn’t want to tell my parents because I didn’t want to make
them feel worried for me, I never thought that I would miss that much my family, friends or even my
city. I've always been very firm in my decisions, I always achieve what I propose
myself. So decided to change my
way of thinking and seeing this situation and I started to make new friends, go
to some places and even I started to enjoy my experiments in cooking. Of course
I still miss my family because I love them so much and I’ve been with them all
my life but now I’m calm because I know I can call them whenever I want or even
go to my city whenever I want.
I don’t feel alone anymore, now I have
friends and I’m starting to know the city, I suppose there are many people who
have gone through the same situation and we all know that at the beginning it is
really difficult because it’s a big change but with the time you will be able
to feel better and love your new life. Now I can say that I’ve overcome this
situation, have you ever been through something similar? Have you ever missed
someone or something? Did you overcome it? How? What did you do to feel
yourself better?
Hello Xalli! I'm Lina Nava, and I've just read your blog, I felt emotional for what you wrote, I've been trough a similar situation, it was a few years ago when i went on a trip with a friend, we went to Cambridge for practice our english, we stood there for one month, I really missed my family at the beggining, but I decided to enjoy my instance there and I felt a lot more better, then I came back and started to value more my family and home.
ResponderBorrarHello Xalli and Lina Nava I never been in a similar situation but I think I can understand what you have gone. I am going to tell you the truth home is home and any place is going to replace but, there is also an other truth you can make placenta your stay, and have a lot of good experiences with new people (I think thats the best part). Also remember that holidays are on the corner of the street
ResponderBorrarand you can go to your home and have spend time with your family.
Xalli Hi, I read your post and I can imagine all the felling about go away from home and family, It´s very important that you think that you´ll never be alone, you are an excellent person and I realy admire that you can take the decision to come to Mexico and study.
ResponderBorrarHey Xalli! I really understand your situation in 2008 I have to go to a camp in Europe alone and by myself in plane I was only 10 years old, the first week was a completely disaster I felt alone and sad but then I realized that it was a great trip and we have to enjoy everything even the bad times so be sure that you took the right decision for your future and I´m sure you´re great in what you do so keep going!
ResponderBorrarHello Xalli!! I´ve never been in a similar situation, but it must be difficutl being away from your family, I think all you have to do is to take advantage of this opportunity.
ResponderBorrarGood Luck!
Hello Xalli!I really understand what you are going through, because I am in a similar situation. I know its´s sad to go home and be alone and all that things, but you should know that it is for your own good.
ResponderBorrarHello Xalli, I imagine it's very difficult to separate you from your family.
ResponderBorrarI've never been in a situation like yours, but I'm glad you feel better now.
Don´t forget that your family will always support you.
Hi Xalli, i've been through the same situation before. I'm a foreign student too. I also miss my family and hometown every single day. We are having a chance to grow and we can not miss it. We should talk someday and help each other out.
ResponderBorrarHello xalli! I've read your post, it's very difficult live in another city, and how you said before missed your family, it's horrible, but like you said in this life we need to do sacrifice something to be a better person, to have a better Job.
ResponderBorrarYou have done it because you want to study communication and its your dream, never stop your dreams, fight for them, and in 3 years you are going to see the results.
Hi Xalli! I understand you. May be my best choice will be to know more friends that live near to me, and go out with them. But I know that nothing, even a boyfriend compares with the love and needy of your family.
ResponderBorrarBut, come on Mexico City its huge, you can go out for many places, and never get bored!
Xalli!
ResponderBorrarDefinitely you're living an incredible experience. I've been through your situation and of course it's difficult, but making new friends is always good therapy when this one!
Congratulations on taking this route, you will not regret it, I assure you.
PD: Take me to Los Mochis hahah!
Xally!
ResponderBorrarI've never been in a similar situation but I'm sure that this experience would help You to Mature and grew up in different ways so, enjoy this new beginin in your life and good luck!
Hi Xally, I've never been in a situation like that but it must be very difficult to stay away from people you love, but you have to enjoy every second in your life.
ResponderBorrarHi Xalli! i've read your post and i can't imagine how difficult can be to go another city and star a kind of life without your family close to you. I've never been in a situation like that but i can imagine the challenge. It is difficult at the beginning like you said but is an amazing experience.
ResponderBorrarHi Xalli! I read your post with interest...I have never been in similar situation, but I am sure that's so difficult leaving your family. But you have to enjoy all the oportunities that life gives you.
ResponderBorrarHi Xalli! I know that first is so difficult but you have to be strong and mature because at the end problaby you would enojoy every single moment in this time of your life.
ResponderBorrarHi Xalli! Congratulations for your bravery and your constant decission of staying here, I undersatnd you because last year I went to a volunteer program that was in anither country and with different people. And at the beginning it was hard but later I got used to it.
ResponderBorrarHice Xalli! Firstly congratulations for your decission to study far to your home, and I have been in a similar situation actually and I understand you how you say is very difficult but not is impossible I tell you that you can! Finally thanks for sharing us your history!
ResponderBorrarHice Xalli! Firstly congratulations for your decission to study far to your home, and I have been in a similar situation actually and I understand you how you say is very difficult but not is impossible I tell you that you can! Finally thanks for sharing us your history!
ResponderBorrarHello Xali! I have never been in a similar situation and I bet that if was difficult but I am sure you go with it very well and thought you many new thins
ResponderBorrarHi Xalli!
ResponderBorrarIT IS LIFE! i've been away from home from the past 4 years (1 year in New Zealand and 3 years here) so I guess I'm used of living alone and meet new people everywhere I go. But I can say that homesick is really common... It still happens to me sometimes actually. Be brave!